Tuesday, March 15, 2016

Who's Worth Saving?

Everywhere I turn the same mantra is spewed forth "You are responsible for no one's happiness but your own." 

I call BULLSHIT. This is a cop-out too often used by our fellow man to selfishly do what they want with no regard to how they affect those around them.

Watching someone in pain is hard - seeing injustice is frustrating, so, too often, we look away...

Then we wonder, why did that young adult kill himself? How did violence become so prevalent in my neighborhood?

There was a time in my life when I was difficult to love shocking I know or even to be around. A bleakness had nested itself so deeply in my soul that I was incapable of experiencing the joy that is at the center of life. 

This pain is messy - sobbing in great gulps with snot running down your lip messy. It can be cruel - biting words meant to cut deep and quick. Explosive and painful to everyone in the vicinity. It isn't easy to bear witness to this type of pain and the idea of wading into it to pull someone out can be daunting. How convenient then, to claim yourself absolved of all action since you are not responsible for another person's happiness.

Many people leave. Off to enjoy the company of those quick to laughter and eager to revel in the moment. And whether or not the person suffering understands the lure, the outcome is the same - she is alone. 

While was I was blessed to have support enough to get through and stellar insurance coverage many do not. 

So, yes it is absolutely my responsibility to be a humane being. It is yours, too.

Say something to the kids you hear taunting a child in the park - they will listen. Sure, they may talk smack when you turn your back - do you care? But they will stop picking on the kid, and unify in their distaste of adults. So be it. In some little way you have told them that injustice will not be tolerated.

You won't change the world by yourself. But think what can be accomplished if we all created the world in which we want to live. This will never happen if we are only concerned about our own happiness. We must be focused beyond ourselves. 

As Gandhi said, "Be the change you want to see in the world." (or watch it tear apart)